Can I Change My Mind

We all have made awful decisions and wished that we could start the applicable scenarios over again. Crying over spilled milk can be beneficial if it helps us to avoid future spills. More than a decade ago, I was a security guard in a downtown Los Angeles office building. I worked with a fellow guard named Thelma. I referred to her in a previous post (see We would see a mentally unstable homeless woman walk the streets while talking to herself. Thelma decided to socialize with the woman. She began to greet her. This led to conversations. Thelma told me that the woman claimed to be a queen from a foreign country and, also, Jamie Foxx’s wife. One day, Thelma gave her five dollars out of the blue. A few days later, Thelma was on her lunch break and the woman approached her as she stood in a line at a fast food establishment. The woman had a crazed look in her eyes as she asked, “When you gave me that money, were you trying to help me or was it a trick?” Thelma replied, “I was trying to help you.” The woman then stated, “I think it was a trick.” Thelma responded, “It was not a trick! I knew you were hungry and I was trying to help you!” The woman turned around and stormed out. Thelma was quite upset. She told me that her sister had advised her to be careful because the woman could end up trying to hurt or kill her. Thelma realized that she never should have initiated contact with the woman or given her unsolicited money. Can I Change My Mind (1968), by Tyrone Davis, is a song that expresses a devastating regret over a terrible decision. It reminds me of how Thelma felt. No harm ever came to her before she was fired for an unrelated issue.